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Chapter 14 - When Love Goes Awry (Part 1): Applications of the Duplex Theory of Love and Its Development to Relationships Gone Bad

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  03 December 2018

By
Robert J. Sternberg
Edited by
Robert J. Sternberg  and
Karin Sternberg
Robert J. Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
Karin Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
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Summary

What is love and how does it develop? How does it go awry? A duplex theory of love captures two essential components of the nature of love – first, its structure (a triangular model); and second, its development (a model of love as a story). The model of love as a story is an attempt to specify how various kinds (triangles) of love develop. Together, the two parts of the duplex theory – the triangular theory and the theory of love as a story – can help us understand many of the causes of failed relationships.

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The New Psychology of Love , pp. 280 - 299
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2018

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