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Chapter 15 - When Love Goes Awry (Part 2): Application of an Augmented Duplex Theory of Love to Personal and Situational Factors in Jealousy and Envy

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  03 December 2018

By
Robert J. Sternberg ,
Navjot Kaur  and
Elisabeth J. Mistur
Edited by
Robert J. Sternberg  and
Karin Sternberg
Robert J. Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
Karin Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
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Summary

At sixteen years of age, a co-author of this chapter fell madly and all-consumingly in love – or so he thought – with the student sitting in front of him in his biology class. As it turned out, the love was “infatuated love” (Sternberg, 1986), but he did not know that at the time. To him, she was his “true love.” There was a problem, however. The woman – call her “Jane” – had a boyfriend.

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The New Psychology of Love , pp. 300 - 330
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2018

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