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Chapter 11 - Styles of Romantic Love

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  03 December 2018

By
Clyde Hendrick  and
Susan S. Hendrick
Edited by
Robert J. Sternberg  and
Karin Sternberg
Robert J. Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
Karin Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
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Summary

To understand why we view love as we do, it is necessary (or at least useful) to understand how we came to our viewpoints. When we first began our research on love, we were newlyweds (beginning a second marriage with some life experience and heaps of idealism). In addition, we were a counseling psychologist (Susan) and a social psychologist (Clyde), trying to find an area of work that would be practical (Susan conducted couple therapy in her private practice) and empirically rigorous (Clyde was a seasoned scholar).

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The New Psychology of Love , pp. 223 - 239
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2018

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