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Chapter 6 - Love Is Political: How Power and Bias Influence Our Intimate Lives

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  03 December 2018

By
Terri D. Conley ,
Staci Gusakova  and
Jennifer L. Piemonte
Edited by
Robert J. Sternberg  and
Karin Sternberg
Robert J. Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
Karin Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
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Summary

Love is political. Not political in the sense of governments or elections – though we would argue that such institutions do regulate love – but in a broader sense. In her book, Sexual Politics, Kate Millett (1970) used the term “politics” to refer to the ways in which people jockey for power within groups. We borrow this approach as we address the issue of love.

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The New Psychology of Love , pp. 117 - 137
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2018

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