So far, we have discussed the importance of seeking to know and understand a partner. We have described the ways in which attributions and explanations for relationship-oriented behavior can improve or harm those relationships. But knowing a lot about a partner and/or using relationship-enhancing attributional patterns is not enough to ensure a smooth relationship. There are other key components to the minding theory that, in combination with the knowledge and attributional elements, can help stabilize and transform relating.

First, it is necessary to respect and accept the information gained in the process of discovering one's partner. Second, there needs to be reciprocal minding behavior on the part of both partners. One partner can initiate minding, but cannot “carry” a relationship successfully alone, at least not for long periods of time. Both partners need to participate in minding. Last, there is a need for continuity in minding a relationship. People and relationships change over time. To keep 'up to date“ with a partner, and to keep the relationship thriving, partners must continue the minding behaviors throughout the life of the relationship. Seeking knowledge, verifying attributions, displaying acceptance, and striving for reciprocal balance should all be continuous processes that create the synergy of a lasting, close relationship.