5 - A return to a new normal
Juggling fathering and work
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 01 March 2011
Summary
No, I would go mad, I'm fairly sure I'd go mad, yeah, I couldn't be a stay-at-home dad.
(Gus)The complex and contradictory landscape of contemporary fatherhood has been explored in the opening chapters in this book. It has become clear that for some men new imaginings and new possibilities have emerged as they become fathers: but how are these understood and accomplished in everyday life when set beside mothering practices and societal visions of motherhood? In this, and the following chapter, later episodes of the men's unfolding experiences of transition are explored as their child(ren)'s first birthday approaches. A longer view of their experiences is illuminated in a final section of this chapter, through data collected from some of the participants following their child(ren)'s second birthday. Once again a focus on the men's unfolding narratives reveals in different ways what ‘being there’, ‘sharing care’ and doing fathering involves and looks like as life returns to ‘a new normal’. The themes outlined in earlier chapters are traced through as men reflect upon their earlier expectations, everyday fathering practices and sense of self. For the men, these revolve around paid work outside the home and doing (‘fitting in’) fathering in early mornings, evenings and weekends and in periods that are created through, for some, changing their working patterns rather than hours.
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- Making Sense of FatherhoodGender, Caring and Work, pp. 111 - 144Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2010