Book contents
- Frontmatter
- Editors’ Preface
- Contents
- List of Contributors
- Memoir
- Part I The Family Justice System and The Work of Family Lawyers, Judges and Academics
- Part II Developing Family Law and Policy: Culture, Concepts and Values
- Part III Horizontal Family Law: Relationships Between Adults
- Part III: Horizontal Family Law: Relationships Between Adults Marriage
- Part III: Horizontal Family Law: Relationships Between Adults Cohabitation
- Part III: Horizontal Family Law: Relationships Between Adults Financial Aspects and Property
- Part IV: Vertical Family Law: Children, Parents and Parental Figures Parentage, Parenthood and Responsibility for Children
- Part IV: Vertical Family Law: Children, Parents and Parental Figures Children’s Rights and Welfare
- Part IV: Vertical Family Law: Children, Parents and Parental Figures Post-Separation Parenting and Child Support
- Part IV: Vertical Family Law: Children, Parents and Parental Figures State Intervention
- Part V Individual Family Law
- Part VI Other Family Matters
- John Eekelaar’s Publications
- Index
- About The Editors
John Eekelaar and His Work
An Appreciation
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 20 April 2023
- Frontmatter
- Editors’ Preface
- Contents
- List of Contributors
- Memoir
- Part I The Family Justice System and The Work of Family Lawyers, Judges and Academics
- Part II Developing Family Law and Policy: Culture, Concepts and Values
- Part III Horizontal Family Law: Relationships Between Adults
- Part III: Horizontal Family Law: Relationships Between Adults Marriage
- Part III: Horizontal Family Law: Relationships Between Adults Cohabitation
- Part III: Horizontal Family Law: Relationships Between Adults Financial Aspects and Property
- Part IV: Vertical Family Law: Children, Parents and Parental Figures Parentage, Parenthood and Responsibility for Children
- Part IV: Vertical Family Law: Children, Parents and Parental Figures Children’s Rights and Welfare
- Part IV: Vertical Family Law: Children, Parents and Parental Figures Post-Separation Parenting and Child Support
- Part IV: Vertical Family Law: Children, Parents and Parental Figures State Intervention
- Part V Individual Family Law
- Part VI Other Family Matters
- John Eekelaar’s Publications
- Index
- About The Editors
Summary
‘I am not a Christian’, the younger daughter declared at the dinner table. Forks and knives were put down; eyes swivelled expectantly. She continued, ‘to be a Christian, you have to believe in Christ, and I don’t.’ Her atheist father smothered a smile while I sat, mind racing, wondering what my God-fearing Christian mother would say. She was already horrified that we sent our children to birthday parties dressed in leggings and T-shirts, and not gussied up in ‘proper’ party frocks. Now this. Had we over-Eekelaared the children? Can one over-Eekelaar, though? I didn’t think so. My firmly held belief has always been that we should seek to put his theories into practice in ‘real life’. We had been trying to live by Eekelaar’s principle of dynamic self-determinism, which, he explains, places a duty on the carer:
[to] establish the most propitious environment in which the child will be able in due course to make a decision that is in accord with the personality growing within him or her. It is dynamic because it allows for revision of outcomes in accordance with the child’s developing personality and involves self-determination because of the scope given to the child to influence the outcome.
We had not closed her offfrom other influences and, indeed, had a Diwali lamp atop the fireplace next to the dining room table. She was au fait with Ramadan and Eid(s), Hannukah and the finer points of Christmas (presents) and Easter (chocolate eggs and bunnies). There may have been some Halloween thrown in there too, but that I blame on a sabbatical spent in New York. No, the children were not over-Eekelaared, though, if truth be told, there have been times when I have thought them overly enamoured of their ‘right to be heard’. One cannot blame Eekelaar for that though. Well, on reflection, maybe one can. Even before the adoption of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child, in 1989, he was one of the early proponents of educating children about their rights, a project now best exemplified by the UNICEF Rights Respecting Programme in Schools.
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- Family MattersEssays in Honour of John Eekelaar, pp. 131 - 148Publisher: IntersentiaPrint publication year: 2022