My husband was a slave of de Sloans and didn't get to see me as often as he wanted to, and of course, as de housemaid then, dere was times I couldn't meet him, clandestine like he want me. Us had some grief over dat, but he got a pass
twice a week from his marster, Marse Tommie Sloan, to come to see me…Sam
was a field hand and drive de wagon way to Charleston once a year wid cotton,
and always bring back something pretty for me.George P. Rawick, The American Slave : A Composite Autobiography, Vol. 2, Part 1 (Westport, Connecticut: Greenwood Press, 1972), 300.
Historians have found it difficult to assess the extent and nature of slave
cross-plantation marriages (that is, where husband and wife lived on
different slaveholdings). This is largely because white sources give no
basis for estimating their scale or character. Estate papers and business
records often list slaves belonging to a particular owner, but such lists
give no indication of spouses and other relatives of those slaves who
might belong to neighbours. Similarly, except for scattered comments on
visiting privileges given to certain slaves, or references to the possible
advantages and inconveniences of allowing slaves to marry off the
plantation, owners took little interest in the vigour of such unions.