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The Ex-Factor: Attachment Anxiety and Social Comparisons Across Romantic Relationships

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  03 April 2019

Simran Hingorani  and
Rebecca T. Pinkus
Simran Hingorani*
Affiliation:
School of Psychology, University of Sydney, Sydney, New South Wales, Australia
Rebecca T. Pinkus
Affiliation:
School of Psychology, University of Sydney, Sydney, New South Wales, Australia
*
Address for correspondence: Simran Hingorani, School of Psychology, The University of Sydney, Sydney, NSW 2006, Australia. Email: simranhingorani@gmail.com
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Abstract

Individuals high in attachment anxiety often experience persistent negative self-perceptions and heightened sensitivity toward perceived relationship threats. These characteristics may extend into past romantic relationships. This study examined whether individual differences in attachment style predict self-evaluations and relationship social comparison frequency. Two hundred and fifty-nine individuals rated themselves, their partner, and their current partner's ex-partner (CPE) or their ex-partner's current partner (ECP) on several dimensions. Individuals high in attachment anxiety experienced more relationship uncertainty but were not less satisfied than individuals low in attachment anxiety. They also made more comparisons in general and to relationships involving an ex-partner, and viewed themselves less positively than they viewed their CPE/ECP. Findings are discussed with respect to the influence that past relationships might hold over anxiously attached individuals’ current relationships.

Keywords

romantic relationshipsattachment anxietyformer partnersocial comparison
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Research Article
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Journal of Relationships Research , Volume 10 , 2019 , e7
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Copyright © The Author(s) 2019 

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