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29 See Norton, Liberty’s Daughters, pp. 61-62.

30 Degler, At Odds, pp. 38-40. Not all historians share this view. Edmund Morgan, for example, claimed that affectionate salutations and closings were not atypical of seventeenth century Puritan letters. See Morgan, The Puritan Family, pp. 50-51, 60-61.

31 That is, I have examined every personal letter exchanged by couples during the colonial period that I could locate.

32 To my knowledge no overview of Hispanic “America Letters” has been written. For an assessment of the uses scholars have made of the “America Letters” from immigrants to the United States, see Gerber, David, “The Immigrant Letter between Positivism and Populism: American Historians’ Uses of Personal Correspondence,” in Earle, Rebecca, ed., Epistolary Selves: Letters and Letter-Writers, 1600-1945 (Aldershot: Ashgate Press, 1999)Google Scholar.

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36 In her study of eighteenth century immigration to the Americas Rosario Márquez asserts that requests for their wives to join them in the Indies are the single most characteristic feature of letters from immigrant husbands. See Macías, Rosario Márquez, La emigración española a América (1765-1824) (Oviedo: Universidad de Oviedo, 1995), p. 259 Google Scholar.

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40 Joaquín Ugarte to Juana Landero, Havana, 14 June 1768, in Macías and Morales, eds., Cartas desde América, eds., p. 255. I have translated hija as “dearest.”

41 Juan Miguel de Ortesa to María Nicolasa de León y Toledo, Veracruz, 12 July 1755, in Macías and Morales, eds., Cartas desde América, pp. 123-24.

42 Juan Díaz Pacheco to Ana García Roldan, Mexico, 30 April 1586, in Otte, ed., Cartas privadas, p. 112.

43 Luis de Cordoba to Isabel Carera, Puebla, 5 February 1566, in Otte, ed., Cartas privadas, pp. 147-48. “Small and miserable life” is from Luis de Illescas to Catalina Gutiérrez, Mexico, 24 September 1564, in Otte, ed., Cartas privadas, p. 45.

44 Faustino Fajardo to Josefa de Tapia, Cartagena, 16 July 1713, in Macías and Morales, eds., Cartas desde América, pp. 175-76. Fajardo remained without his wife until at least 1720.

45 Gaspar Mejía to Catalina Domínguez, Zacatecas, 5 January 1587, in Otte, ed., Cartas privadas, p. 212.

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49 Baltasar de Valladolid to Clara de los Angeles, Santa Fe, 1 May 1591, in Otte, ed., Cartas privadas, pp. 283-85.

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52 Juan de Palencia to Magdalena Jiménez, Mexico, 16 December 1570, in Otte, ed., Cartas privadas, pp. 59-60.

53 Pedro de León to his wife, Mexico, 10 October 1796, in Macías and Morales, eds., Cartas desde América, p. 63. Letter-writing manuals provided detailed information about the sailing schedules of mail boats to facilitate correspondence. See Antonio, J. D., y Begas, , Nuevo estilo y formulario de escribir cartas misivas y responder a ellas (Madrid, 1794)Google Scholar.

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57 Cadalso, Cartas marruecas, pp. 112-13.

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59 Juan de Córdoba to Catalina Pérez, Cartagena, 27 May 1583, in Otte, ed., Cartas privadas, pp. 296-97.

60 José Manuel Cárdenas to María Celestina Rubio, Tambo, 6 August 1811, in Tovar, “Cartas de amor y guerra,” p. 161.

61 See Tejada, Cosa nueva.

62 See Salazar(?), Secretaire espagnol; and D. y Begas, Nuevo estilo.

63 Evangelistas operated in town markets and for a fee would draw up written documents on behalf of the illiterate. For descriptions from nineteenth-century Mexico, see Poinsett, Joel Roberts, Notes on Mexico made in the Autumn of 1822 (New York: Praeger, 1969), p. 78 Google Scholar; Lyon, G. F., Journal of a Residence and Tour in the Republic of Mexico in the Year 1826, 2 vols (Port Washington: Kennikat Press, 1971), vol. 2, p. 130 Google Scholar; and Mayer, Brantz, Mexico, As It Was and As It Is (Philadelphia, 1847), pp. 39–40 Google Scholar. For the ownership of letter-writing manuals in the sixteenth and seventeenth centuries, see Lefaye, “Del secretario al formulario,” p. 255.

64 “Abre niña este papel,” in Baudot, Geogres and Méndez, María Agueda, eds., Amores prohibidos: La palabra condenada en el México de los virreyes, Siglo XXI (Mexico City: Siglo XXI, 1997), p. 145 Google Scholar. I am grateful to an anonymous Americas referee for recommending this book.

65 Mintz and Kellogg, Domestic Revolutions, p. 48. Their assertion is based in part on Norton’s analysis of eighteenth century correspondence in Liberty’s Daughters, pp. 61-2. Norton comments that the hierarchical nature of such marriages is obvious “in those cases where husbands addressed their wives as ‘dear child.’”

66 hijo, Real Academia de la Lengua, Diccionario [1726-37J, republished as Diccionario de Autoridades, 3 vols. (Madrid: Credos, 1963).

67 This is consistent with the fact that the average age gap between husbands and wives does not appear to have increased from the sixteenth to the eighteenth centuries. For a discussion of age of marriage in Spain and Mexico, see McCaa, “Marriageways in Mexico and Spain”; Ramón Gutiérrez, “From Honor to Love: Transformations of the Meaning of Sexuality in Colonial Mexico,” in Smith, Raymond, ed., Kinship, Ideology and Practice in Latin America (Chapel Hill: University of North Carolina Press, 1984), p. 256 Google Scholar; and Gutiérrez, When Jesus Came, p. 327.

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69 Correas, Gonzalo, Vocabulario de refranes y frases proverbiales [1627], Comber, Luis, ed., (Bordeaux: Institut d’études Ibériques et Ibéro-américaines de l’Université de Bordeaux, 1967)Google Scholar.

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74 tú, usted, and vos. Real Academia de la Lengua, Diccionario.

75 Other historians concerned with the nature of romance in the Hispanic world have accorded the verb amar (“to love”) undue analytical importance. Both Patricia Seed and Ramón Gutiérrez claim that the term was not widely used until the late eighteenth century, a fact that both regard as highly significant, although they disagree in their interpretations of this change. Gutiérrez argues that the increasing use of the words amor (“love”) and amar after 1800 reveals the growth of a rhetoric of romantic love. Prior to then, he asserts, these terms were used to refer either to the Christian sentiment of agape, or to illicit sexual activity. It did not convey a positive image of physical affection. The latter sense of the word, he claims, appeared only at the end of the eighteenth century. (Gutiérrez, When Jesus Came, p. 329.) According to Seed, amor carried implications of uncontrolled sexual desire throughout the eighteenth century, and hence remained a term of abuse. She argues that its increased use in the eighteenth century as a motive for marriage implied a devaluing of that institution, rather than a growth in the language of romantic love. (Seed, To Love, Honor and Obey, pp. 48-49, 119-20.) In fact, the 1726-37 dictionary of the Real Academia de la Lengua gave virtually synonymous definitions for amar and querer, with little suggestion that amar carried an illicit sense. Amor itself was defined as the “sentiment of the rational soul.” Only amores, and enamorar carried negative, lascivious overtones. (See amar, amor, amores, enamorar, and querer. Real Academia de la Lengua, Diccionario.) Moreover, Spanish golden-age poetry gives ample evidence that amar was in wide and positive use from at least the sixteenth century, and the term was indeed used by our letter-writers in the body of their letters, if not in the salutations. In any event, this focus on one verb is unreasonable. The letters examined here reveal that from the sixteenth century spouses employed a wealth of endearments with great expressiveness. The presence or absence of the single verb amar thus reveals little.

76 Norton, Liberty ‘s Daughters, p. 62.

77 Pedro Sánchez to Juana Ramos, Mexico, 26 June 1564, in Otte, ed., Cartas privadas, p. 44.

78 Jacinto de Lara y Rosales to Manuela de Lara Rosales, Mexico City, 2 August 1730; José Rodríguez Vidal to Florentina María de la Bastida, Santa Fe, 31 May 1720; Francisco Domínguez Morales to wife, Mexico City; and Pedro Ildefonso Trujillo y Seixas to Frasquita Manuela Seixas Trujillo, Veracruz, 9 February 1770; all in Macias and Morales, eds., Cartas desde América, pp. 84-85, 167- 68,74, 130-31.

79 Pedro García Mojarro to Felipe María Mojarro, Mexico, 16 May 1717; and Ignacio Muñoz de Sandoval to Beatriz García Pérez de Vargas, Mexico, 27 February 1718, in Macías and Morales, eds., Cartas desde América, pp. 70-71. The same phrase was used by an eighteenth-century Mexican priest in a letter to a parishioner whom he aimed to seduce. See Baudot and Agueda Méndez, eds., Amores prohibidos, p. 140 (and also pp. 128-29).

80 For a study of the terms of endearment used in French personal letters from the eighteenth century, see Marie-Claire Grassi, “Friends and Lovers (or the Codifications of Intimacy),” in Charles Porter, ed., Yale French Studies: Special Issue on Men and Women of Letters 71 (1986), pp. 77-92.

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86 “attachment and will” are Seed’s translation of afiliación y voluntad. (Note that Gutiérrez translates voluntad as “liking.”) She translates de mi gusto as “to my liking.” (Seed, To Love Honor and Obey, p. 48.)

87 Boyer, The Lives of the Bigamists, p. 85. Lavrin similarly notes that such inquisitorial records tend to emphasise “the frailty of the human condition.” See Lavrin, “Sexuality in colonial Mexico,” pp. 61-62.

88 For court testimony (in this case from early modern England) as a narrative genre, see Gowing, Laura, Domestic Dangers. Women, Words and Sex in Early Modern London (Oxford: Clarendon Press, 1996)Google Scholar, esp. chapter 7. I am grateful to Steve Hindle for drawing this source to my attention.

89 See Martin, Luis, The Daughters of the Conquistadores: Women of the Viceroyalty of Peru (Albuquerque: University of New Mexico Press, 1983)Google Scholar, chapter 6; Calvo, Thomas, “Concubinato y mestizaje en el medio urbano: el caso de Guadalajara en el siglo XVII,” Revista de Indias 44:173 (1984)Google Scholar; Sergio Ortega, “Teología novohispana sobre el matrimonio y comportamientos sexuales, 1519-1570,” in Ortega, Sergio, ed., De la santidad a la perversión, o porqué no se cumplía la ley de Dios en la sociedad novohispana (Mexico: Grijalbo, 1985)Google Scholar; Lavrin, “Sexuality in Colonial Mexico”; and Kathy Waldron, “The Sinners and the Bishop in Colonial Venezuela: The Visita of Bishop Mariano Martí, 1771-1784,” both in Lavrin, ed., Sexuality and Marriage in Colonial Latin America; Rodriguez, Seducción, amancebamiento y abandono en la colonia, chapter 3; and Almécija, La familia en la provincia de Venezuela, chapter 5. For cases of transatlantic bigamy, see Cook and Cook, Good Faith and Truthful Ignorance; and Boyer, The Lives of the Bigamists. For epistolary self-construction, see Earle, ed., Epistolary Selves.

90 See in particular Stern, The Secret History of Gender.

91 This principle was formulated in the early sixteenth century, and was reiterated throughout the colonial period. See Ardanaz, Ripodas, El matrimonio en Indias, pp. 364–70 Google Scholar; and Bakewell, Peter, A History of Latin America (Oxford: Blackwell, 1997), pp. 77, 172Google Scholar.

92 D. y Begas, Nuevo estilo y formulario. For additional examples, see inter alia, Irving, William Henry, The Providence of Wit in the English Letter Writers (Durham: Duke University Press, 1955), p. 6 Google Scholar; Perry, Ruth, Women, Letters and the Novel (New York: AMS Press, 1980), p. 77 Google Scholar; Brown, Richard, Knowledge is Power: the Diffusion of Information in Early America, 1700-1840 (New York: Oxford University Press, 1989), p. 21 Google Scholar; and Jardine, Lisa, “Reading and the Technology of Textual Effect: Erasmus’s Familiar Letters and Shakespeare’s King Lear,” in Raven, James, Small, Helen and Tadmor, Naomi, eds., The Practice and Representation of Reading in England (London: Cambridge University Press, 1996), p. 6 Google Scholar.

93 A.X. to Eloisa Artega, Puerto Rico, 2 June 1823, in Archivo Histórico Nacional de Madrid, Madrid, Estado 6375, carpeta 15.