Book contents
- Reflections from Pioneering Women in Psychology
- Reflections from Pioneering Women in Psychology
- Copyright page
- Contents
- Contributors
- Foreword
- Acknowledgments
- Introduction
- Chapter 1 Hardly a Straight Line
- Chapter 2 Challenging Paradigms
- Chapter 3 From Young and Naïve to Old and Experienced
- Chapter 4 Being the Change You Want to See in the World
- Chapter 5 Accidental Professor
- Chapter 6 Finding a Place and Changing the Space
- Chapter 7 The More You Do, the Better It Gets
- Chapter 8 Happily Ever After
- Chapter 9 Love and Work
- Chapter 10 Overcoming Obstacles and Thriving
- Chapter 11 Out of the Box
- Chapter 12 Stress Has Been Good to Me
- Chapter 13 On Pioneering at Northwestern University… With a “Village” of Supports
- Chapter 14 Against All Odds
- Chapter 15 Tricked by Memory
- Chapter 16 Doing Psychology in Unsettled Times
- Chapter 17 Overcoming Obstacles
- Chapter 18 Knocking on Doors that Opened for Me
- Chapter 19 Paths Unexpected, but Rewarding, during an Academic Journey
- Chapter 20 Reflections on an Improbable Journey
- Chapter 21 The Delicate Art of Balancing Serendipity and Planfulness in an Academic Career
- Chapter 22 A “Skin in the Game” Scaffolded Career Path
- Chapter 23 A Wonderful Journey Along an Unforeseen Path
- Chapter 24 Choosing Both
- Chapter 25 Identity and My Life Story in Psychology
- Chapter 26 Doing What Matters: A Framework for Academic Success
- Conclusion
- Index
- References
Chapter 9 - Love and Work
How to (and Not to) Have Both
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 09 April 2022
- Reflections from Pioneering Women in Psychology
- Reflections from Pioneering Women in Psychology
- Copyright page
- Contents
- Contributors
- Foreword
- Acknowledgments
- Introduction
- Chapter 1 Hardly a Straight Line
- Chapter 2 Challenging Paradigms
- Chapter 3 From Young and Naïve to Old and Experienced
- Chapter 4 Being the Change You Want to See in the World
- Chapter 5 Accidental Professor
- Chapter 6 Finding a Place and Changing the Space
- Chapter 7 The More You Do, the Better It Gets
- Chapter 8 Happily Ever After
- Chapter 9 Love and Work
- Chapter 10 Overcoming Obstacles and Thriving
- Chapter 11 Out of the Box
- Chapter 12 Stress Has Been Good to Me
- Chapter 13 On Pioneering at Northwestern University… With a “Village” of Supports
- Chapter 14 Against All Odds
- Chapter 15 Tricked by Memory
- Chapter 16 Doing Psychology in Unsettled Times
- Chapter 17 Overcoming Obstacles
- Chapter 18 Knocking on Doors that Opened for Me
- Chapter 19 Paths Unexpected, but Rewarding, during an Academic Journey
- Chapter 20 Reflections on an Improbable Journey
- Chapter 21 The Delicate Art of Balancing Serendipity and Planfulness in an Academic Career
- Chapter 22 A “Skin in the Game” Scaffolded Career Path
- Chapter 23 A Wonderful Journey Along an Unforeseen Path
- Chapter 24 Choosing Both
- Chapter 25 Identity and My Life Story in Psychology
- Chapter 26 Doing What Matters: A Framework for Academic Success
- Conclusion
- Index
- References
Summary
A struggle since at least my suffragist great-grandmother, combining committed work and close relationships remains a challenge. My foremothers’ experiences and my own rocky life illustrate choices both happy and sad; observing the women in my family suggests that either all work or all family can frustrate anyone reasonably ambitious or easily bored. Aiming to have both love and work, I watched role models, concentrating first on the career, then looking for a spouse. Career lessons: attend to local politics; heed advice; bridge the gap between areas; metabolize failure. Perseverance furthers in matters of both mind and heart but not both at once. The mind being at work, the heart hunts. Proximity predicted success, yielding one long-term relationship with a neighbor and (separately) others met at work (with appropriate consent and discretion). Sometimes, somehow, some can have it all, but much depends on making the most of serendipity.
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- Reflections from Pioneering Women in Psychology , pp. 112 - 125Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2022