3 - Calculated affection
Published online by Cambridge University Press: 05 September 2012
Summary
The applying a mathematical Calculation to moral Subjects, will appear perhaps at first extravagant and wild. . .
– Francis HutchesonMarcel Mauss's influential essay The Gift begins by quoting some stanzas from the Hamaval, one of the poems of the Scandinavian Edda that Mauss suggests ‘may serve as an epigraph for this study, so powerfully do they plunge the reader into the immediate atmosphere of ideas and facts in which our exposition will unfold’ (Mauss 1990:1). I want to take the same text as this chapter's point of departure.
I have never found a man so generous
And so liberal in feeding his guests
That ‘to receive would not be received’,
Nor a man so . . . [the adjective is missing]
Of his goods
That to receive in return was disagreeable to Him
With weapons and clothes
Friends must give pleasure to one another;
Everyone knows that for himself [through his Own experience].
Those who exchange presents with one another
Remain friends the longest
If things turn out successfully.
One must be a friend
To one's friend,
And give present for present;
One must have
Laughter for laughter
And sorrow for lies
You know, if you have a friend
In whom you have confidence
And if you wish to get good results
Your soul must blend in with his
And you must exchange presents
And frequently pay him visits.
But if you have another person
Whom you mistrust
And if you wish to get good results,
You must speak fine words to him
But your thoughts must be false
And you must lament in lies.
This is the way with him
In whom you have no trust
And whose sentiments you suspect,
You must smile at him
And speak in spite of yourself:
Presents given in return must be similar to those received.
Noble and valiant men
Have the best life;
They have no fear at all
But a coward fears everything:
The miser always fears presents.
It is better not to beg [ask for something]
Than to sacrifice too much [to the gods]:
A present given always expects one in return.
It is better not to bring any offering
Than to spend too much on it . . .
(Mauss 1990:1–2)
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- Intimate StrangersFriendship, Exchange and Pacific Encounters, pp. 104 - 139Publisher: Cambridge University PressPrint publication year: 2010