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Chapter 4 - Ways to Matter

from Part I - Understanding and Promoting Mattering

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  20 May 2021

Isaac Prilleltensky
Affiliation:
University of Miami
Ora Prilleltensky
Affiliation:
University of Miami
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This chapter introduces an evidence-based model for personal change called BET I CAN. BET I CAN stands for Behaviors, Emotions, Thoughts, Interactions, Context, Awareness, and Next steps. When it comes to mattering, you can easily see that it involves all the BET I CAN levers. For instance, we can add value by doing something (behaviors), relating to people in certain ways (interactions), and shaping the community where we live (context). In turn, we can feel valued through emotions or thoughts. Our plans to add value, or feel valued, as the case may be, always require awareness of our situation and next steps. Each letter of the BET I CAN model encompassed two skills. This is what we teach in the chapter: Behaviors (Set a Goal and Create a Positive Habits), Emotions (Cultivate Positive Emotions and Manage Negative Emotions), Thoughts (Challenge Negative Assumptions and Write a New Story), Interactions (Connect and Communicate), Context (Read the Cues and Change the Cues), Awareness (Know Yourself and Know the Issue), and Next Steps (Make a Plan and Make it Stick).

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How People Matter
Why it Affects Health, Happiness, Love, Work, and Society
, pp. 59 - 90
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2021

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