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Foreword

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  13 October 2009

Thomas N. Bradbury
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University of California, Los Angeles
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In the back of every marital therapist's mind there is – or should be! – a gnawing doubt about values. As a professional, how does one know that a given marriage is “missing” something important? Clearly, therapists need to be informed about theories of adult intimacy. Familiarity with the myriad of piecemeal, cross-sectional studies showing this or that something about “basic” processes is also a good idea, albeit practically rather difficult. Over the years in my clinical work I have taken it as axiomatic that successful couples must achieve something unique to themselves and that they must be active! As a marital therapy supervisor, I confess to getting bored when a couple is boring, and I get even more bored when marital therapists allow their sessions to become boring. Isn't that just my own limited attention span masquerading as a “defining property” of all good marriages?

It was with unbridled glee that I read about “zest” – one of the variables Joseph Veroff, Elizabeth Douvan, Terri Orbuch, and Linda Acitelli included in their study of marital happiness in stable marriages in Chapter 5. I now feel less self-conscious insisting that spouses in good marriages should be active. “Zest!” That's my kind of construct.

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  • Foreword
  • Edited by Thomas N. Bradbury, University of California, Los Angeles
  • Foreword by Robert L. Weiss
  • Book: The Developmental Course of Marital Dysfunction
  • Online publication: 13 October 2009
  • Chapter DOI: https://doi.org/10.1017/CBO9780511527814.001
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  • Foreword
  • Edited by Thomas N. Bradbury, University of California, Los Angeles
  • Foreword by Robert L. Weiss
  • Book: The Developmental Course of Marital Dysfunction
  • Online publication: 13 October 2009
  • Chapter DOI: https://doi.org/10.1017/CBO9780511527814.001
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  • Foreword
  • Edited by Thomas N. Bradbury, University of California, Los Angeles
  • Foreword by Robert L. Weiss
  • Book: The Developmental Course of Marital Dysfunction
  • Online publication: 13 October 2009
  • Chapter DOI: https://doi.org/10.1017/CBO9780511527814.001
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