In writings on war, the enactment of grief is often overshadowed by the drama of battle. As in the wider conflict where loss is born, grief leaves no one unaffected by its devastation: like combat, there is no space to retreat and to take refuge from the havoc grief unleashes among those who give and those who receive the news of death.

Soldiers were messengers and chroniclers, as well as watchers and sufferers of grief. Unlike the theatre of war, where they played out their performances like actors trained in melodrama, they were given no script for this role. Their confrontation with death meant they could not act out their military selves with the control and certainty expected of them by others who witnessed battle. One soldier, E. W. D. Laing, wrote to the mother of his deceased friend, expressing his awkwardness, reluctant responsibility and individual mourning: