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Through the Looking Glass, Darkly: Perceptions of Hate in Interpersonal Relationships

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  26 January 2015

Katherine Aumer ,
Anne Cathrine Krebs Bahn  and
Sean Harris
Katherine Aumer*
Affiliation:
Hawaii Pacific University, Honolulu, Hawai’i, USA
Anne Cathrine Krebs Bahn
Affiliation:
Hawaii Pacific University, Honolulu, Hawai’i, USA
Sean Harris
Affiliation:
Hawaii Pacific University, Honolulu, Hawai’i, USA
*
ADDRESS FOR CORRESPONDENCE: Katherine Aumer, 1164 Bishop St, Honolulu, HI 96813, USA. Email: kaumer@hpu.edu
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Abstract

Current research has focused primarily on how hate works in groups or its theoretical nature. This study replicates previous findings (Aumer-Ryan & Hatfield, 2007) that hate is primarily felt towards intimate others or people we spend considerable time with. Ninety-eight participants filled out a survey concerning themselves, the people they love and the people they hate. Participants also filled out a survey about motivations concerning the people they love and hate. Results demonstrate that participants saw people they hate considerably differently than those they love, and themselves. Additionally, this study provides empirical evidence that hate can be used as a predictor of motivation. Specifically, disgust and devaluation were important predictors in negative and positive motivation. Additional studies examining interpersonal hate can help better understand how hate operates and inform current theoretical literature.

Keywords

haterelationshipsfamilylove
Type
Research Article
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Journal of Relationships Research , Volume 6 , 2015 , e3
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Copyright © The Author(s) 2015 

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