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Chapter 8 - Everyday Conceptions of Love

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  03 December 2018

By
Beverley Fehr
Edited by
Robert J. Sternberg  and
Karin Sternberg
Robert J. Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
Karin Sternberg
Affiliation:
Cornell University, New York
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Summary

Nearly fifty years ago, Knox (1970) commented that, “Research regarding conceptions of love is lacking. Many writers offer plausible opinions and contentions regarding love attitudes, but provide little empirical data” (p. 151). In the decades that have followed, writers still offer “plausible opinions and contentions,” but, as shall be seen, they can no longer be accused of not providing empirical data.

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The New Psychology of Love , pp. 154 - 182
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Print publication year: 2018

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