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30 - Romantic Love

from Part VIII - Relational Quality

Published online by Cambridge University Press:  11 June 2018

By
Jennifer M. Tomlinson ,
Arthur Aron  and
Elaine Hatfield
Edited by
Anita L. Vangelisti  and
Daniel Perlman
Anita L. Vangelisti
Affiliation:
University of Texas, Austin
Daniel Perlman
Affiliation:
University of North Carolina, Greensboro
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Summary

Why do some relationships continue whereas others terminate? Relationship maintenance scholars have attempted to answer this question by focusing on defining and explaining key maintenance strategies that serve to initiate and preserve romantic relationships. In this chapter, we begin by providing a brief history of the definition of relationship maintenance. Then, we identify the processes by which romantic partners maintain their relationships and consider these processes in the individual, relational, social, and cultural contexts. We reflect on key theoretical contributions (e.g., social exchange, attachment, evolutionary theory) to the current understanding of relationship maintenance in addition to its known correlates. To conclude the chapter we highlight the implications of the existing body of research, identify possible avenues for future inquiry, and propose ways to integrate work across disciplines.
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The Cambridge Handbook of Personal Relationships , pp. 407 - 421
Publisher: Cambridge University Press
Print publication year: 2018

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